Divided Families

Divided Families: Generation Abandoned,1650

ELDERLY OFTEN LEFT BEHIND WHEN RELATIVES CROSS THE BORDER

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Photos by COURTNEY SARGENT
Story by CODIE SANCHEZ
Cronkite News Service

AGUA PRIETA, Mexico_ Grandmothers and grandfathers, nanas y tatas, are often left behind when family members illegally cross into the United States.

The elderly can’t make the harsh and dangerous trip across the desert, and with tighter border enforcement, it’s hard for families to return for visits.

The result: senior citizens’ homes all along the Mexican border, filled with elderly residents, many of them long forgotten.

“The young people of this country leave their elderly family members here while they try to make it into the U.S.,” said La Divina Coordinator Rosa Tarazon. “Abandoned people are becoming more and more common along the border.”

“There are hundreds of people faced with this ugly situation,” added Adalberto Ramos, head of the Centro de Recursos Migrantes, a help center for migrants. He said he has talked to dozens of people who have left their elderly family members behind because of increasing border enforcement and dangerous conditions.

They leave them in places like La Divina Providencia in Agua Prieta, Mexico, a home for seniors run by the Catholic Church and the Mexican government. The home is minutes from the Arizona border, but a world away from those who have crossed.

It is place of sorrow _ and sometimes of hope. It is, most of all, a place of waiting.

One elderly resident breaks down sobbing each day. Another prays the rosary until the beads are worn. Another says she is trying to forgive her children and grandchildren who abandoned her. These are the forgotten faces of immigration, a generation abandoned.

Carmelita Gutierrez

Carmelita Gutierrez is 92 and has spent the last seven years in La Divina without once having a visitor.

She hasn’t spoken to anyone in her family since her son Alberto died seven years ago in a car accident. She says she doesn’t know how to get in touch with the rest of her family in the United States.

Communicating across the border is extremely difficult for these poor immigrant families, according to Jose Herrera, a minister in Douglas. “You have no idea how many people get separated from each other, lost in limbo,” he said.

Gutierrez lives half in this world and half in a world she has created in her mind, one in which her son is still alive. Sometimes she’s back in Guadalajara, starting her family.

“Carmelita believes she is going to go away with a soldier, start a new family and have her son Alberto pick her up from here in his truck. She’d rather not remember the truth, just illusions,” said Elena Navarro, a caretaker at La Divina.

Gutierrez’ life has been filled with family divisions and separation. When she was 9, her mother left her and her brother Jesus with their grandmother to go to the United States and work.

Gutierrez’ only memory of her mother is a basket her mother sent her 83 years ago for her first communion. Tucked inside were a little white dress and shoes.

After her grandmother died, Jesus went to look for their mother, and Gutierrez was left alone to work in the coffee fields. “That was the last time I saw my brother,” she said with a tear rolling down her face.

She reached behind her back and picked up two teddy bears. “This is Alberto,” she said, holding up the bear, squeezing him, then picking up the other. “And this is Jesus.”

Emma Ortiz

Emma Ortiz caresses a picture of a pretty young girl in a white quinceanera dress.

This is her niece Ballida who she hasn’t seen or heard from in 15 years. Emma has not talked to anyone in her family since they drove away from La Divina on Jan. 24, 1992, leaving her behind.

“My family doesn’t write me. I don’t get any letters, and we never talk,” she said. All she knows is that they were planning on moving to Phoenix.

Ortiz is left to imagine the life her loved ones now have _ and to imagine the reasons they have remained away so long.

“I’m sure Ballida’s never visited because she has a family and a husband in the U.S.,” Ortiz said, looking down again at the picture. “I guess there’s no reason to talk with them; it must mean everything is good.”

She stops often to cough and gasp for air. Sometimes she uses a respiratory machine to ease the choking. Ortiz has had problems breathing since she was a young girl, her caretaker Elena Navarro said.

In recent years, problems with her thorax and trachea have worsened, and doctors can’t do much to help except give her medicine to ease the pain.

“She’s a beautiful person, so caring even though she could be bitter from all her health problems and her family abandoning her,” said La Divina Coordinator Rosa Tarazon. “She suffers a lot.”

Ortiz smiles as Tarazon says this and spreads several rosaries across her chest. She explains that she is not angry because she talks to God and he listens.

“This rosary is for my family wherever they are,” she said. “This one is for myself, and this one…this one is just for God.”

She would like her family in Phoenix to know that she hopes they will come. “They would be well received here,” she said.

Isidra Seneth Zorilla Montoya

Isidra Montoya, 82, reaches out a frail hand each time a visitor passes her bed, but in the three years she’s been here, no visitor has come to hold it.

Montoya’s family _ two sons and her favorite, daughter, Agostina _ once lived in a small town in southern Mexico. The family made plans to cross illegally into the United States, but Montoya, then 78, was too weak to make the journey.

“The last time I talked to my daughter, she was getting married to an American. She was only going to leave me for a short time until she could come back and forth across the border legally,” Montoya said.

Weeks turned into months and, finally, Montoya decided to search for her family. She got a visitor’s visa and made her way to Douglas, but the address her daughter had given her was wrong.

”I had no choice but to turn around; I gave up on them like they gave up on me,” Montoya said.

Now she struggles alone against her ailing body.

A year ago she had all of her teeth pulled out and was left with a painful, blistering infection in her jaw. The only remedy was surgery, but she can’t afford the operation.

“It’s been a year and they haven’t done anything; my jaw hurts so much I can’t eat _ only this mush,” she said, holding up a watery gruel.

Montoya hardly leaves her bed and only speaks aloud to say her rosary. “She’s depressed because she misses her family,” said her nurse, Maria Santiesteban.

Sometimes Montoya thinks about what she would do if her family came back. “I would say nothing,” she concludes. “They don’t come here. They don’t love me. They brought me over here and abandoned me.”

Manuel Espinosa

Manuel Espinosa has been at La Divina for seven years.

All that staff members know about him is that they really don’t know anything at all. No one saw who dropped him off at the senior care center on Oct. 11, 2000, and no one has come to see him since.

His legs were amputated, he cannot speak and he is deaf. “All we know is this piece of paper,” said La Divina Coordinator Rosa Tarazon, holding up a sheet with his name, date of birth and medical problems.

Most of the time, he sits in the hallways or the TV room, alone, with a cowboy hat pulled low across his forehead.

Like Espinosa, many of the residents at La Divina are a mystery. They lose their memories, their hearing and their ability to speak.
Without their children and grandchildren, their stories are lost.

Raul San

Raul San rarely leaves his favorite chair that faces a window at La Divina Providencia. He is a father of two, a grandfather of many and a well-known presence in Agua Prieta, Mexico.

He was born and raised in Agua Prieta and spent his life working as a plumber and political volunteer for the National Action Party of Mexico.

“He was a hard worker and very good at his job, said caretaker Javier Morales Ortega. “People knew him here in Mexico.”

San smiles as Morales says this. “You can see pictures of me in the newspapers,” he said.

Those newspaper clippings have faded since his family left him in Mexico and moved to Los Angeles.

They used to come to visit about once a year, but as it has become more difficult to cross the border, they come less and less frequently. It has been more than a year since he has seen his daughter, and he fumbles with her name.

“I talk to them very little,” he said. “I can’t believe I am forgetting my own daughter’s name.”

Finally, he remembers it’s Veronica and that she is as beautiful as her mother, who passed away many years ago.

His fondest hope is that Veronica and his son will move to Arizona to be closer to him. “They’re going to come and live in Douglas; they can’t like Los Angeles. It’s better here in Douglas by me,” he said.

“It’s hard to say you miss them because it makes it real,” he added. “But I do, I miss everything about them. Not having them near is what I miss the most.”

San knows he is one of the lucky ones: his family still sends money to cover medical bills, but he would rather have them close at hand.

“They want to be with me, but they can’t. There they live,” he said, pointing in the direction he imagines the border lies. “There they got married, and there they stay.”

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CARMELITA GUTIERREZ

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Even after seven years without a visitor, Carmelita Gutierrez says she has not given up hope that one day she’ll see her loved ones again. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Carmelita Gutierrez, 92, sits on her bed at La Divina Providencia in Agua Prieta, Mexico. She has never had a visitor during the seven years she has been at the home. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Carmelita Gutierrez waits for a peanut butter sandwich and mug of warm milk in the kitchen at La Divina Providencia. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Carmelita Gutierrez takes a nap while a nurse visits with other residents at La Divina Providencia in Agua Prieta, Mexico, this past November. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Carmelita Gutierrez holds on to the two teddy bears she named after her sons Alberto and Jesus. One of her sons is dead, and the other has never visited. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

EMMA ORTIZ

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Emma Ortiz looks at a photo of her niece, one of many photos that she stores in a box of keepsakes at La Divina Providencia in Agua Prieta, Mexico. Ortiz has not seen or heard from anyone in her family for more that 15 years. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Emma Ortiz waits in her bed for a mug of warm milk during snack time at La Divina Providencia in Agua Prieta, Mexico, last November. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Emma Ortiz is seen through the bars of her bed where she spends all of her days and all of her nights. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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The nurse checks Emma Ortiz for a fever. La Divina Providencia is privately funded, and its staff say they do not have sufficient funds for proper medical equipment. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Emma Ortiz wheezes throughout her nap. She has had trouble breathing since she was a girl. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Emma Ortiz treasures her collection of rosaries. She says keeps one rosary for herself, one for her family and one for God. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

ISIDRA SENETH ZORILLA MONTOYA

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Isidra Seneth Zorilla Montoya cries in pain. She rarely leaves her bed at La Divina Providencia in Agua Prieta, Mexico. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Isidra Seneth Zorilla Montoya’s nurse brings her soup for dinner. Montoya had all of her teeth removed and can only have liquids and soft foods.(Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Isidra Seneth Zorilla Montoya leaves her food untouched. She has been at La Divina Providencia for three years. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Isidra Seneth Zorilla Montoya has not had a visitor in the three years she has been at La Divina Providencia in Agua Prieta, Mexico. She says her family abandoned her here because she wasn’t well enough to make the illegal crossing into the U.S. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Isidra Seneth Zorilla Montoya spends most of her time in bed. She speaks aloud only to say her rosary. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Isidra Seneth Zorilla Montoya slowly sips her soup during dinner time at La Divina Providencia in Agua Prieta, Mexico, last November. Montoya suffers from a painful infection in her jaw. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

MANUEL ESPINOSA

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Manuel Espinosa sits near the window in the hallway of La Divina Providencia in Agua Prieta, Mexico, last November. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Manuel Espinosa wipes away a tear at La Divina Providencia in Agua Prieta, Mexico. His legs have been amputated, and the staff says he is deaf and cannot speak. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Manuel Espinosa has been at La Divina Providencia in Agua Prieta, Mexico, for seven years. He has had no visitors. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Manuel Espinosa eats a sandwich for dinner in the dining room of La Divina Providencia one day last November. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Manuel Espinosa rests in the warmth of the afternoon sun coming in through a window at La Divina Providencia. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Manuel Espinosa (left) and another resident nap in the room they share at La Divina Providencia. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

RAUL SAN

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Raul San sits in his favorite chair in the hallway of La Divina Providencia in Agua Prieta, Mexico. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Raul San sits in the lounge at La Divina Providencia one day last November. San’s children moved to the U.S. and haven’t visited in over a year; he can barely remember his daughter’s name. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Raul San waits patiently as Rosa Tarazon pours warm milk into mugs in the kitchen of La Divina Providencia. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Raul San looks into the courtyard of La Divina Providencia. It has been more than a year since he’s seen his daughter. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)

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Raul San sits alone in the lounge at La Divina Providencia. He says his family can’t visit often because it has become so difficult to cross the U.S.-Mexico border. (Cronkite News Service Photo / Courtney Sargent)